Happiness is something you create through the choices you make in your life. It can’t be bought or given to you. Most of the time YOU are the cause of this unhappiness. Here are five ways that you can stop sabotaging your own happiness.
- Remove toxic people from your life
It’s hard to be happy when you are dealing with toxic relationships in your life. If you have anyone in your life who drains your time, energy, or money, it’s time to distance yourself from them. You aren’t obligated to keep anyone in your life. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known someone or if they are a family member. If you want to be happy, it’s important to spend your time with people who make you smile and laugh. The people who cause you headaches and heartbreak should be removed immediately. You’ll quickly notice an improvement in your mood when you remove the toxic people from your life.
- Stop procrastinating
If you’re not chasing your dreams, you’re denying yourself happiness. It might be easier to spend your time texting friends, watching TV, or sleeping in, but these things won’t make you happy long-term. Setting goals and chasing dreams will lead you to the life you want. You won’t get there by sitting around and making excuses. If your dream is to write a book, spend time every day working on that dream. You might not have hours to devote to it, but it’s not hard to find thirty minutes. Any amount of time counts. Stop putting off the hard things that will make you happy simply because doing other things is easier.
- Limit your social media time
Spending too much time on social media may cause you to feel unhappy because you’ll start to compare your life to other people’s. You see their happy moments posted and begin questioning why you aren’t farther ahead in life, why you don’t own a house, and why you aren’t married with a couple of adorable babies. Remember that social media is the place people go to show off the highlights of their life. They aren’t going to talk about the baby that threw up and the hour they spent cleaning up after that. They aren’t going to talk about how their relationship with their wife has gone downhill in the past two months. If you find that you feel bummed after looking at social media, look at it less often. Anything you really need to know will be told to you personally and you’ll remain content with the life you’re building for yourself instead of comparing yourself to others.
- Stop assigning your happiness to future events
Have you ever told yourself that you’ll be happy when you finally earn more money, buy a house, or get married? These things are nice, but they won’t magically make you any happier than you are today. Happiness comes from within yourself and how you choose to live. A wedding day won’t make you happy for the rest of your life. A house won’t change the way you live and how you feel. Only you can do those things. Stop saying you’ll be happy when you’re 40 or when you purchase your vacation home and learn how to be happy NOW. By assigning your happiness to a future date or event you are denying yourself happiness now.
- Practice gratitude
If you spend most of your time complaining, it will be difficult for you to be happy. You’re focusing on the negative around you and what’s going wrong in your life instead of seeing the positive and being grateful for the things you have. Being grateful doesn’t mean you stop working for the life you really want. Spend time each day thinking of things to be grateful for. There is nothing too small to be grateful for. It’s important to be grateful for the basic everyday things as well as the big things. When you learn to be grateful instead of complaining all the time, you will become a happier person.
Happiness is something you can achieve right NOW. You don’t have to wait for tomorrow or until some special event happens to be happy. CHOOSE HAPPINESS NOW.